Crying is Cheating

Obviously, this does not apply to a death in the family or something horrible like that.

If you're arguing and pull out the tears, that's fucked up.  What is the other person supposed to do?  You're obviously in no position to be mature and you can't make your point when you can't even talk right.  When people start crying you can't keep talking to them like a rational individual.  Even if they deserved it you can't help but feel a little bit like you're kicking a wounded puppy.  Crying in an argument is cheating.

People don't usually hurt you on purpose.  Chances are, if they mean enough to you to make you cry, then they already feel like assholes for making you cry; crying is not necessary to make them feel bad.  If you're crying in front of someone that didn't make you cry, then you're making them feel like shit for no real good reason.


If they don't care that they hurt you then crying doesn't do you any lick of good - be strong, because they're assholes and aren't worth the trouble, they don't deserve your vulnerability.  They don't deserve to see you all snot nosed and blubbery.

Not to mention your eyes will burn like Hell if you're wearing mascara.

Don't tell me that if you don't cry then it doesn't look like you care, if the other person doesn't know how you feel then they're either dense or don't know you well enough to matter.  If their dense then they better smarten up quick, you shouldn't have to bring on the waterworks just to make a bloody point.  If they don't know you that well then why the hell are you crying over them in the first place?



If you're crying in front of someone who hasn't hurt you, here's a thought: Why do they need to be there for that?  Go home, cry in peace and work out your thoughts.  ThenI if you need to turn to a friend for advice you can work through it without having to take nose-blowing breaks and without bringing your friend down.  You'll feel better and think better, your friend will feel better and thank you for it.

Crying does not solve your problems.  Crying makes the people around you feel helpless and a little bit like shit.  Crying is cheating.

Did your BFF drop you?

This summary is not available. Please click here to view the post.

Introductions

Hello, I'm a Realist; in case you hadn't guessed as much.

Why am I creating a blog? The same reason anyone creates a blog, I'd imagine. First of all, Neal Patrick Harris is awesome and I grew up watching Doogie do this kind of thing. Second, I'm vain enough to think my thoughts are important to you and might affect the way you approach the world.  Also, I'm the one all my friends turn to when they need a straight dose of reality. So I've chosen to share these little gems with you. They might apply to something you or a friend is dealing with, they might entertain you, they might illuminate you to the type of insensitive people living in the world around you, they might do absolutely nothing for you, who knows.

Should you find yourself in need of a personal reality check or are just morbidly curious about my opinion, write in. Ask a Realist.