Why your Ex won't have sex with you

So an acquaintance of mine is trying to do the friends thing with his ex-girlfriend.  That's fine.  We're all out having some drinks, he gets antsy (as drinks can have that effect) and proceeds to try to get his ex to go home with him for some lovin.  She refuses.  He tells us that the reason for her refusal is this:

"She's afraid she'll fall in love with me again."

I don't know the guy very well so I actually manage to keep my mouth shut, but for the rest of you having a similar problem let me set the record straight.

That reason is absolute bull.  She is not afraid of falling 'back in love with you'.

If she dumped you, then she took into consideration the loss of not just your company but your sexual company - and she was OK with that.

If you dumped her then she's incredibly insulted that you thought, for even a second, that she would possibly be willing to sleep with you when you don't even want to be with her.

Here's the deal, there is a reason you guys broke up.  Either she wasn't feelin it anymore or you weren't feelin it anymore.  The drunken booty with your ex is an act of desperation and says "I don't want to be with you but I have no other options, you game?"

For guys this is not a problem because it (incorrectly) translates to "You're the best dick I've ever gotten and I want more."  Which is a testament to your epic manhood and sexual wiles.  Score!

For the ladies this is a slap in the face.  Not only are you insulting her worth as a human being but also her character.  "I'm drunk and you're easy" is not romantic or flattering.  Demeaning and insulting is more like it.

So not only is the fact that you just hugely insulted her is she not sleeping with you, but she might not be sleeping with you because she does have other options and you're not so fantastic in bed that she would be willing to swallow her pride (heheh) in order for another chance to have sex with you.

Sure, some relationships do end up with a fringe benefit sort of agreement.  But that is usually discussed ahead of time and not when you're already drunk & horny.  If you were with somebody for years and then it had to end let's face it, there is a reason it had to end.

So why won't you're ex-girlfriend sleep with you?

-You broke her heart & there is no reason to allow you to reap the benefits of a relationship that you're not willing to be a part of.

-The sex wasn't that good in the first place.

-Any woman worth her spit would never give it up after so great an insult to her worth. (No matter how good the sex may or may not have been).